On life and its vagaries

Possessed with something

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I was rummaging through my old books while at my home recently and I found one loaned to me by a school friend of mine. I never returned it and he is dead now. He was a troubled character from his school days, very unpredictable and often very violent. He used to carry all sorts of dangerous things with him. When I last heard of him he was in hiding after stabbing someone accidentally that is, taking the man for someone else in the dark. The stabbed man did not file a complaint and the event petered out, temporarily saving him from being locked up. He was held by everyone in the community to be a bad case!

He was never nice to anybody and people in general were rather afraid of him. I remember his surprisingly good grades at school. But he never went into the college for lack of support from his family. This must have made him very sore at heart. There were frequent quarrels with the parents and he left for Mumbai soon after finishing school. Living moneyless in Mumbai could have made him more dangerous than he was already by then.

No one knows the cause of his death. He was still young when he died. Some say he was done away with by his former friends in Mumbai. Some say he had committed suicide. Both are likely possibilities considering his turn of mind. He had tried to end his life by jumping into a deep well when he was denied the opportunity to go to the college like us. He was fished out and taken to a hospital with some broken bones.

We were not close, but then in our peer groups any one was welcome as long as he behaved himself and did not get us overly into troublesome situations. Normal trouble was expected because none of us were paragons of good behavior. Everybody knows how the young are; we were just like any other groups in the locality having some fun with life. He did not try to show off in front of us and we were not bothered by his dangerous side over much at that time.

He was intelligent and was a good reader too. So we used to talk about what we read and exchange books amongst us. That was how the book came to my hand. I had always wondered why the books did not change him at all in his approach to life. It seemed that his intellectual life and emotional life went in two different ways altogether.

When I think of him I feel rather sad that he could not become something else than he was…….poor guy


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  1. extremely intelligent children need very careful guidance, or else they mostly stray away from their path.


    September 6, 2009 at 4:58 pm

  2. I agree with you on that point. This was the one drawback we had in the days of our childhood, derailing its other blessings. Our parents were a little insensitive where matters of heart was concerned. They took hard decisions which could affect the entire future of the child purely based on their current financial situation. They thought that the child would understand them. From the above case it is clear that even an intelligent child would find it hard to digest such things when they prevent him from being like others in his peer group.

    I have seen too many incidents where the child has become a threat to himself and others because of such denial of opportunity in my school college days. This has changed for the better now. A good thing that is.


    September 6, 2009 at 8:08 pm

  3. precisely.. if they clearly talked with the child treating him as an adult his life would not have gone downwards..

    we have to treat children like young adults not infants..


    September 18, 2009 at 12:26 pm

  4. Yes you are right on that one 🙂


    September 18, 2009 at 6:02 pm

  5. i am very good and highly popular with children 🙂


    September 20, 2009 at 3:25 pm

  6. I am happy for you. They don’t take to every one 🙂


    September 20, 2009 at 6:28 pm

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